My marriage is important to me. My husband is my best friend and greatest support. Yet I found myself confused when I lost my conservative Christian faith.
For a long time, I had subscribed to the “submissive wife” theory. Note that “I” had subscribed to it, not “him”. While I noticed that he responded well to me when I was kind and respectful, he never mentioned that I should submit to him, or that his opinion was greater than mine. In fact, he has always asked my opinion about literally everything, and we usually come to an easy agreement.
But now what? What was I to think? How was I to act?
While talking about different viewpoints, he mentioned that Biblical submission probably wasn’t the path we should follow. Interesting. I felt this way too, but was scared to say it out loud. Not out of fear for what this meant for our marriage, but because this would radically change my outlook on life.
But oh, how I wanted to make this change in my thinking.
Instead of focusing on what the Bible said or implied about womanhood, I looked within. A lot of contemplation was involved.
I wasn’t willing to read too much about the topic, or listen to other people’s opinions. I had done that before, with disastrous results to my emotions.
In the past year, I had read many Christian, Jewish, and Pagan sources. So yeah, a lot of confusion was involved!
I knew that feminine energy was real. Now I had to learn how to articulate it for myself, without being religious or too mystical.
Feminine and masculine energy are meant to compliment each other. It’s a beautiful dance if we learn how to embody it.
Feminine energy should be celebrated! It often is not in patriarchal societies. The fact alone that I have this blog and am allowed to write is a huge win for femininity. It shouldn’t be lost on us that nearly all writing for nearly all of time was written from a masculine perspective because femininity was suppressed.
This suppression has led to consequences. Without feminine input, the earth has been used and abused. The masculine trait of assertiveness has not been correctly balanced with the feminine trait of nurture. I believe we are beginning to see this now, and I hope we are not too late.
I want to embody feminine traits in my marriage, because I feel like it’s my birthright. This type of energy is powerful. It’s what Sacred Femininity is all about.
This Sacred Life 